Lets Negotiate chapter one: How to Negotiate

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Lets Negotiate chapter one: How to Negotiate

I am from a Nobel home, we aren’t that rich but one thing I know was that we were satisfied with what we have.

During the lifetime of my dad, I learnt much from him, He never stopped teaching me on how to handle and control my pride. My dad encouraged me to always be very submissive to everyone no matter who it was. He taught me to be very submissive even to those that I think am better than, nobody knows tomorrow.

Being submissive does not mean as a citizen, you we have to abandon your rights and obey the wrong, It does not mean you have to agree yes to every single yes and agree No to every single No, But being submissive means you have to show respect always to those who shows you respect, you have to be nice, kind, whether they are rich or poor.

But anytime you smell something fishy and you feel your right is been Jeopardize, due to the persons you’re submissive to, they do not understand or appreciate your value, one thing I always do is to ignore the person, Avoid the person and maintain my rights, you don’t need a soothsayer to tell you, who is taking your submissiveness for granted.

Most people in our present day society don’t appreciate submissiveness, They act like they have seen it all, they behave like kings wherever they go. 80% of this people, if you analyze their background very well, you will find out that they are nobody. They only brag and boast sometimes when they meet some kind of success that they have not seen before. It so sadden that they don’t think properly, and they forgets that every single moment isn’t permanent. If you look and observe clearly, you would notice that you’re not the only one who they picks on, they obviously take everyone for a ride, they don’t feel the need to respect others in hoping to get a similar respect back.

It is so nice to be submissive to others but don’t forget to maintain your rights. Me personally, I don’t take my rights for granted, I am usually so submissive but if you dare bite me or Jeopardize my rights,  I use to be very bold and proud to open up.

As a citizen of any country it’s very important to know the laws over there and to maintain the rights, freedom and liberty given to one.

With submission, we would be able to negotiate on our everyday life. In my introduction during the story of me and my buddy, my negotiation with the Auto guy actually kicked off from where I addressed him as big bros, that brought my ego so low but it increased his, After calling him big bros, he felt respected and paid back my submissiveness to him with alternate submissiveness which include a nice attention to listen to what I have to say next. Take an example of someone you want to help, and if you label the person as been rude to you, there is 99.9%  chances that you won’t help the person, but if the person is submissive and they addresses you nicely, killing their pride, you would feel so touched and at least you would pay a listening ear to their needs even if you can’t help them.

The event between me and the Auto driver happened in such a way that there was submissiveness paid back with submissiveness. Sometimes submissiveness aren’t paid with submissiveness and if it doesn’t happen, what I normally does is to ignore, avoid, and maintain my rights.

At the intense moment, My friend on the other hand was hijacking all the ego’s, he called it wise and stubbornness, my dad calls that type of his behavior stupidity and foolishness.

How to negotiate with anybody

First kill you pride, create that submissiveness, always bear in mind that everybody have a different point of view and don't call their point of view stupid, rather appreciate it and they we be so happy that they would appreciate yours too and its left for them to decide is your view true or is theirs false.

I love using words like please, thank you, i understand your point, and whenever i say i understand your point, next thing i say is please try and understand my own point. 

Draw a letter nine (9), look at it from the south to north, it we look like six but if you look at it from north to south, it we look like nine, now does it mean that those that called it six where wrong ? No they aren’t wrong.

Now the question is how to convince this people from sticking with their view, this is where submissiveness is very important, give them respect in their view and they would respect and pay full attention to you. once you have their full attention strike your views and i promise you 90% of chances it does work.

And if you know that your views are wrong, try and work on your sincerity. 

Here is Malcolm X quote, and he said I have a great respect for a man who let me know where he stands even if he is wrong.